Tuesday, November 17, 2015

I WILL TEACH YOU TO BE RICH…..Starting Today!


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I WILL TEACH YOU TO BE RICH…..Starting Today!
 
Okay, okay!  WE will teach you to be rich….starting today!
My co-partner in crime is Ramit Sethi, the author of the New York Times bestseller, I Will Teach You To Be Rich.  While he has authored the book, I will be doing the reading.  I will be breaking down theories and steps in the book, as well as providing real life examples and cute little antidotes.

 
SPOILER ALERT:
The key to being rich (according to Ramit) is to set up accounts at a reliable no-fee bank and then automate savings and bill payment, then know a few things to invest in and let your money grow for 30 years.
 
MY TAKE:
It takes a bit (lot) more than that and I will make sure to bring up any areas that Ramit tries to tip toe over.
 
I WillTeach You To Be Rich is broken up into 6 weeks of topics, followed by a set of action steps.  At the end of the 6 weeks, if you follow all of the action steps, Ramit promises that you will be well on your way to being rich…..if you are consistent and faint not.  :-)
 
By the way, this is my November/December read and I will be going through and completing all 6 weeks of action steps by the end of the year.  Feel free to join me each week while I discuss the topic and action steps towards richness, indeed.
 
WEEK 1: OPTIMIZE YOUR CREDIT……CARDS
While there are experts out there (Ahem…..Dave Ramsey) that believe that debt is against the bad and that you avoid it and a credit score at all costs.  My beliefs are more in-line with what is taught by Ramit.
If you do not know how to responsibly use debt, avoid it like a plague (or get some discipline).  However, if you are have the discipline to use your card prudently and to pay off your credit card every month, it can actually be a benefit. 
Even if you have the money in your account, who wants to have that ridiculous hold that hotels put on your account when you use your debit card to reserve your room?  When you rent a car, who wants to pay that ridiculous insurance, when there are really good credit cards out there with exceptional coverage?  When you buy an expensive product and something goes wrong, who wants to wait for the bank to put the money back into your bank account?  Who wants to pay for an extended warranty, when there are credit cards out there who will give you an extra year or two, just for making the purchase on their card?  If I can save major money by utilizing the benefits that only credit (not debit) cards provide and I know that I am going to pay the full balance off that month, I choose credit.
To optimize your credit you must do the following…..THIS WEEK!
1.    Know what is on your credit report and know your FICO score.
a.    Go to http://www.annualcreditreport.com and receive a copy of 1 (or all three) of your credit reports for free.  Make sure that they are accurate.  Work to remove all negative credit history over time.
b.    Get your credit score.  You can purchase it from MyFICO and other websites for a nominal fee, but I would suggest getting it for free.  I monitor my credit score through Credit Sesame, Credit Karma and one of my credit cards.
2.    Set up your credit cards
a.    Do you have an active credit card?  If not, do your research and get one (unless, of course, you fall into that undisciplined category).  If no one will have you, find a good provider of secured credit cards that will report your payment history to the credit agencies to help you build credit.  Otherwise, find a card with the most benefits that will fit your lifestyle.
3.    Make sure you are handling cards effectively
a.    Set up auto pay to pay off the full balance each month.  Split the payments to match your paycheck schedule, if necessary.
b.    Get fees waived and negotiate a lower APR, where relevant.
 
c.    Become familiar with the benefits offered by your card and make good use for them, when needed.
4.    Make a plan and start paying down debt (if applicable)
a.    I am a fan of the Snowball Method (as suggested by Dave Ramsey).  List all of your debts from smallest to largest.  Pay the minimum on all the debts, except the smallest debt.  Based on your budget, pay an additional amount on this debt each month.  Once that debt is paid off, move to the next smallest debt.  In addition to the minimum due that you had already been paying, roll the amount that you were previously paying on the smallest debt over to the next smallest debt, and so on and so on, until all of your debts are paid off.
b.    In addition to the snowball method, I am also a proponent of the Snowflake Method.  If you get a side hustle, if you find a penny on the ground, if you get a bonus check or tax refund, etc., etc……apply that extra money to the lowest debt.
*   Personally, we have paid off all of our credit card debt and are currently working on obliterating some rather stubborn student loans (long story…..don’t want to talk about it).  Once that is complete, I fully plan to work Dave Ramsey’s Baby Steps as outlined in his Total Money Makeover book.  We never stopped our 401k contributions, as he suggests, but that is because I did not think it was the best plan of action.  However, that’s another story for another day.
 
I encourage you to go through the 4 steps listed above with me.  Let’s try to get rich together and if it doesn’t work for us, we can all blame Ramit Sethi.
 
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Monday, November 16, 2015

6 Weeks to the Holidays: What will you eat?





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In mid-October, I committed to spending the next 10 Weeks Organizing my Holiday Celebrations with Organize365.com..  Please join me as I go through this challenge and feel free to follow the steps, as well.
I will start each week’s challenge on a Sunday (oops…..I’m a little late again) and the challenge will end on Saturday, December 26th.
 
Last week, we discussed what we are doing for the holidays.  It's still not completely decided, but we've agreed on some things.
~ Thanksgiving at our place.
~ We will participate in our typical Christmas Eve traditions and have added a new tradition to the mix.  Our Christmas Eve traditions include:
1) We buy each other pajamas to be opened and worn on Christmas Eve
2) We buy each other a book to be opened on Christmas Eve
3) *new tradition*  We buy a gift for the house that can be enjoyed by all of us and open it on Christmas Eve.
~ Christmas Day is undecided, but likely will spend it at home


This week, we decide on what we will eat.
One thing is for sure.  We will have a turkey for Thanksgiving.  I believe we have a little under $60 to spend between now and Thanksgiving to earn a free turkey at ShopRite.
 
Christmas dinner is undecided, but we will discuss it, this week.
 
How about you?  What will you be cooking for the holidays?  Do you have any food traditions that you automatically know that you will have each year?
 

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

7 Weeks to the Holidays: What are you going to do?



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In mid-October, I committed to spending the next 10 Weeks Organizing my Holiday Celebrations with Organize365.com..  Please join me as I go through this challenge and feel free to follow the steps, as well.
I will start each week’s challenge on a Sunday (oops…..I’m a little late again) and the challenge will end on Saturday, December 26th.

Last week we decided if we would send out cards.  The plan is to send out cards.  I sent my husband a link to Minted last week, so that we can agree on a design.  I used Minted for my daughter's birth announcement cards, last year, and they were absolutely stunning.  The cards are not as cheap as Shutterfly*, but the quality is totally worth it.  Either we will use some of the pictures we took this past Spring with our favorite family photographer (Photography by Jen Davis), we will use one of Selah's school pictures (that she's actually taking today) or we will be getting pictures taken specifically for the purpose of the Christmas/ Holiday cards.

Beginning today (well.....Sunday actually), there are 7 Weeks to Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations and the task for the week is to decide what we want to do.
 
 
The things we will be discussing are:
1) Where will we be spending Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and the weekend after Christmas?
2) What foods do we want to make and which dishes will we request that others provide?
3) What about Christmas activities?  Tree lighting ceremony?  Sesame Place?
4) What about decorations?  Do we want a Christmas tree?  Real or fake?  Do we want a wreath for the door?  Any new ornaments?
 
So how about you? Are you into Holiday Planning?  Have you thought about what you will eat, where you will go and how you will decorate?
 

* Shutterfly is offering 50% off on all cards and 20% off on all photo cards purchased through the links on this page by December 31st, 2015.

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Love & Respect


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During the month of July, we attended a 4-week marriage conference at Fellowship Alliance Chapel (FAC) in Medford, NJ.
There were many takeaways that we got from the conference. The most tangible were:

1) Matching T-Shirts (mine not shown)
 
 
2) A book entitled, "Love & Respect"
 
 

The philosophy of this book is based on Ephesians 5:33, which reads: 
 
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.(NIV)
 
According to the author, this is the secret (and God given instructions) to a happy marriage.....or at least a marriage that is pleasing in God's eyes. 
 
RULES OF THE GAME:
 
- Women have an innate need to have someone love them, to make them special and to make them the most important one in their life. Men have the need to feel respected and admired by the woman in his life. 
 
- When women do not feel love from their spouse, they tend to be disrespectful towards them. When the man feels disrespected, he tends to withdraw his love. This is called the "Crazy Cycle" because it goes on an on in a downward spiral, unless someone decides to make a change. 
 
- Who should make the first move?  The one who sees himself or herself as the most mature. 
Taking the role of the mature mate and moving first may be risky, but it is very powerful. The fear, of course, is that you will show love or respect to your spouse and get a bad response.    However, holding back your love or respect will just keep the Crazy Cycle spinning away. Being mature and making the first move could slow it down or even stop the crazy cycle.....and take you to the "Energizing Cycle. "
 
The basic principle of the Energizing Cycle is as follows:
HIS LOVE MOTIVATES HER RESPECT; HER RESPECT MOTIVATES HIS LOVE
 
What if your spouse is unmotivated, no matter how you act towards them?
 
A HUSBAND IS TO OBEY THE COMMAND TO LOVE EVEN IF HIS WIFE DOES NOT OBEY THE COMMAND TO RESPECT, AND A WIFE IS TO OBEY THE OMMAND TO RESPECT EVEN IF THE HUSBAND DOES NOT OBEY THE COMMAND TO LOVE, UNCONDITIONALLY.
 
This brings us to the "Rewarded Cycle." 
 
HIS LOVE BLESSES REGARDLESS OF HER RESPECT; HER RESPECT BLESSES REGARDLESS OF HIS LOVE. 
 
Throughout the book, the author emphasizes that if the husband and wife are both people of basic good will, they can use Love and Respect principles to make a bad marriage into a good one and a good marriage into a great one.  However, even if your wife does not show you respect or your husband does not show you love, God commanded men to love their wives and women to respect their husbands.......unconditionally!
 
Unconditional love and unconditional respect will be rewarded. 
 
If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that?  (Matthew 5:46 NIV)
 
Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people, because you know that the Lord will reward each one for whatever good they do, whether they are slave or free.  (Ephesians 6:7-8 NIV)
 
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.  Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.  Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.  In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.  He who loves his wife loves himself.  After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church--for we are members of his body.  "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."  This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and the church.  However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.  (Ephesians 5:21-33 NIV)

 

What you do matters to God. Nothing is wasted. 
 
*This book can be purchased on Amazon.com


Monday, November 2, 2015

8 Weeks to Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations: Will You Send Cards?


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In mid-October, I committed to spending the next 10 Weeks Organizing my Holiday Celebrations with Organize365.com..  Please join me as I go through this challenge and feel free to follow the steps, as well.

I will start each week’s challenge on a Sunday (oops…..I’m one day late this week) and the challenge will end on Saturday, December 26th.

Last week we made a list of all the people we planned to buy Christmas gifts for and created a rough budget for whatever purchases we decide to make.

Beginning today, there are 8 Weeks to Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations and the task for the week is to decide if we will send out cards.

 
 
Sending out cards is something my husband and I have contemplated since we first got married.  Before having a baby, we didn’t do it because it felt kind of lame.  Who wants to see a picture of two adults as a Christmas card?

Last year was the first year we had a child in our lives, but our lack of planning and organization prevented us from meeting any kind of deadlines we would need to get pictures taken and send Christmas cards out in a timely manner.

This year, we are going to give it another try.

Will we send cards?  That’s the plan.

What kind of cards?  Well, as it stands, we have a few boxes of general Christmas cards in our file cabinet from previous years.  We’ll likely use those cards and stuff a picture of either just Selah (my daughter) or our entire family.  If we run out of those general cards (which I don’t think we will), we may create a custom card to send out to our A-1 list of family and friends.  This year, the top vendor on my list is Minted.  We used them for our daughter’s birth announcement and the results were gorgeous.  They even send you pre-printed envelopes with the recipient names listed on them for free!

Do you plan to send Christmas cards of you and/or your family for the holidays?
 

Sunday, October 25, 2015

9 Weeks to Christmas 2015: Make a Plan


Last week, I committed to spending the next 10 Weeks Organizing my Holiday Celebrations with Organize365.com.

 
I will start each week’s challenge on a Sunday and the challenge will end on Saturday, December 26th.

Beginning today, there are 9 Weeks to Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations and the task for the week is to make a plan.

So, this week, we will decide our holiday gifts budget and make a list of who we plan to buy gifts for.  We already discussed our budget ($500…..including Selah) and have a pretty good idea of who we will be purchasing gifts for (mostly children).  However, I want to put everything in writing and I want to include the maximum amount we are willing to spend on each person (We kind of already discussed that, as well).

Minor Details:

-       Last week, while doing our bi-monthly budget, I started a Christmas Gifts savings account on SmartyPig.com.  I initiated a transfer of $100 from our joint to start the account.  We just got our NY state tax refund (much less than I expected :-( ), which will be used to fund the remainder of our account.
  *   Plan of action is to redeem our savings in discounted gift cards from SmartyPig.
     *   Plan of action is to either give gift cards as gifts or use gift cards to purchase gifts through the eBates website/app…..or load gift cards on Gyft app and use them in the stores.

-       We are hoping to send out cards this year and the cards will be coming out of our budget.

-       Our gifts for each other does not come out of this budget.  We must use our own personal spending/savings for the gifts we’re buying each other.
*   Side note detail includes the fact that part of our Christmas tradition includes always including pajamas and a book in our gift for the other person (this includes Selah), which is opened the night before Christmas.  Every other present is opened on Christmas morning/day.

See the rest of the 10 Weeks to Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations:
10 Weeks To Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations: Commit
9 Weeks To Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations: Make A Plan {You’re here!}
8 Weeks To Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations: Will You Send Cards?
7 Weeks To Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations: What Do You Want To Do?
6 Weeks To Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations: What Will You Eat?
5 Weeks To Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations: Gift Wrap Organization
4 Weeks To Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations: Decorating The House
3 Weeks To Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations: Stock Up On Basics
2 Weeks To Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations: Create Bags For Each Event
1 Week To Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations: DeClutter and Donate Old Toys

Friday, October 23, 2015

Wardrobe Updates (and other Periscope musings.....)


If anyone has had an informal chat with me lately, you know that my new social media obsession is Periscope. 
Periscope lets you broadcast live video to the world.  Going live will instantly notify your followers, who can join, comment and send you hearts in real time.

Watching a scope (that’s what they call the individual broadcasts) earlier this morning led me to the topic of wardrobe updates.  @jeimonroe is a fashion curator and was scoping on the 15 Wardrobe Essentials that every female should have in her closet.  Those 15 wardrobe essentials, according to Jei Monroe are:
1.       A denim button-down shirt
2.       A Blazer
3.       A classic black pant
4.       A maxi dress
5.       A little black dress
6.       A denim jacket
7.       A white button-down shirt/blouse
8.       A nude pump
9.       A classic clutch
10.   A trench coat OR pea coat
11.   A pair of great boots (ankle boots with a heel* ……or knee length boot)
12.   A knee-length pencil skirt
13.   A great leather jacket
14.   A pair of dark denim jeans
15.   A pair of classic ankle – strap heels

NOTES:
A – I need this list!  With being pregnant for the past 3 years (kind of) and finally admitting that I’ve gone up a clothing size, I am now committed to purging those pieces of clothing that I can no longer fit and building my wardrobe with basic pieces that I can easily put together at a moment’s notice.

B – I no longer enjoy shopping like I used to.

C – I no longer have the time or the wherewithal to go shopping whenever and wherever I want.

D – I discovered a whole new service from another person on Periscope (@RuthSoukup of LivingWellSpendingLess) that will help me build my wardrobe without having to actually go out and shop.

That service is called Stitch Fix.  Stitch Fix is a personal styling service tailored towards helping busy women on the go discover and explore their personal style without having to spend countless hours at the mall, going from store to store.

How it works:
1)       You sign up for Stitch Fix online and fill out a personal profile, detailing your size, height, body shape and style preferences.
2)       For the cost of $20, a personal stylist will pick out 5 items each month (though you can select any frequency you want….I chose once a quarter) and mail them to your house.
3)       You keep what you want and return what you don’t want. 
a.       If you keep items, the $20 goes towards the total cost.
b.       If you keep all the items, you get a 25% discount on all the items.
4)       You give feedback to the stylist on the items you received, so that your next shipment is even more customized and tailored to your personal style.

My plan with Stitch Fix is that I (mainly) focus on those basic wardrobe essentials that will never go out of style.  With essentials, like a leather jacket, I don’t mind spending retail price because I know I’ll get a lot of use out of it.  I’ve had my current leather jacket since before I got married (so over 6 years) and it is still going strong.  It’s a wardrobe staple that I’ve more than got the $100+ amount I spent out of it.

My first Stitch Fix box comes on November 6th!  I cannot wait and promise to report back on how it goes.

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

10 Weeks to Organizing Your Holiday Celebrations

There is one thing that we've wanted to do ever since we got married......and even more so since we've had a baby.  We are officially a total family now, so I think it's time to start sending out holiday cards, decorating the house and giving to others during the holidays.

I came across a blog that provides a 10 week challenge that helps you plan and organize your end of year holiday season, which I decided to participate in.  Please join me as I go through this challenge and feel free to follow the steps, as well.

Have you had it with holiday stress? Come join me each Friday for the next 10 weeks as I share tips on organizing your holiday celebrations. | Organize 365
 
*For more information, visit Organize 365 at http://organize365.com/organizing-your-holiday-celebrations/
 
 
If this post begins week 10 and I start all following weeks on Sunday, we can actually complete the final week from December 20th -26th.  Perfect!
 
Hopefully, we'll actually be able to decorate the house and send out Christmas cards this year!